“My evil genius Procrastination has whispered me to tarry ‘till a more convenient season.” Mary Todd Lincoln
“Someday when I grow up, finish school and get a job, I’ll start living my life the way I want . . . someday after the mortgage is paid off, the finances are on track and the kids are grown up, I’ll drive that new car and take exciting trips abroad . . . someday, now that I’m about to retire, I’ll buy that beautiful motor home and travel across this great country, and see all there is to see . . . someday.”
Ed Foreman, professional speaker and author who wrote this statement, called it the ‘procrastinator’s creed.’ I imagine that all of us can see some element of ourselves in his credo. Even the most disciplined goal-achievers have deferred action in some important aspect of their lives. What part of your life contains an element of using delaying tactics? What are you doing about this? Perhaps . . . procrastinating?
Is there anything unfinished in your life? Something you have always wanted to do, but just never got around to doing. Life happens. Time moves on. Some dreams are pretty big and may need to be postponed until a time and place when they are more manageable. (I lost count on the times I have had this thought). We may have relegated all things undone to the proverbial bucket list, that inventory of things to accomplish before we die.
In the movie, “The Bucket List,” the experiences of the two main characters required significant monetary and time resources; fortunately, one of the characters had the necessary wealth. Many of us may not have the personal funds, or access to a wealthy donor willing to fund our personal nonessential endeavors. Financing may have to come from our own resources, but spending our retirement on a ‘before I die list’ might not be the best use of our life savings.
Ambitions and activities requiring money are not the only areas in which we procrastinate. Fortunately, there are plenty of important things to do while here on earth that may not cost a single penny. What do you think?
What about resolving an important issue with a family member? Who will be first to say, “I’m sorry,” or “please forgive me!” Does it really matter? If we do not repair that relationship now, when will we? Someday.
What about that letter you want to write? The one you need to write? The one that will make a difference in the life of the other person who will receive it? Is when a good question? Someday.
What about an adventure like walking the Appalachian Trail? (This came to mind because my sister Dianne is planning this feat). Running (or walking) in a marathon race? Taking up a new hobby that has been in the forefront of our thinking for a while? When is the right time? Someday.
What about giving up that bad habit and replacing it with a good and sound practice? How often have we heard it said, “The toughest thing for human beings is [to make] a change.” Is now a good time, or, is someday a more prudent choice?
How about spiritual growth? Becoming the person I always wanted to be. Kinder, gentler, more supportive, better listener, more prayerful. The person you can call at two o’clock in the morning. Being ‘others-oriented’ instead of being ‘me-centered.’ In what area have you always aspired to do better, but never got around to that necessary change? Is now the time?
A couple of years ago, at an age when most of my peers are retiring, I started a new company and career. It represents something I always wanted to do – speak professionally. And, in the process, I found something else that I like doing that was partly hidden all of these years – writing! If I had not ventured out in this new company, implementing one ‘bucket list’ wish, I would never have found the other. The surprise is that I am writing on an almost daily basis – something I would not, nor could have, predicted 10 years ago. And the speaking, for which I have great passion, is what brought me the current joy of writing.
“If you pick up one end of the stick, you pick up the other.” (Source: Steven R. Covey). When you decide on making a change in your life, you are going to encounter other changes as well. Obviously and very satisfying for me, the ‘other end of the stick’ is writing. This newfound avenue has resulted in my life being enriched and changed in ways I could have never foreseen. While experiencing internal growth, it has also allowed me to make a contribution to others – confirmed by those who have read my first book, There are No Small Moments, and The Mondays are Great Newsletter. I hope that I can continue to provide valuable insights for others while progressing through my own journey.
After more than one year of writing this weekly publication, I actually believe my best may still be ahead. Wow! Is that possible? Yes, very possible. I think most of us would agree that we want each year of our lives to be better than the immediate past ones.. If ‘better’ is the goal, how do we make this possible?
For me, all of this started with a detour in the road . . . Someday became today.
What is your ‘someday’?
Is today a day of change?
Someday . . .
Today . . .