Five Minutes

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Old Chinese proverb. When searching through your web browser for the topic, “how to be happy,” massive articles and opinions written about this subject suddenly appear on your computer screen.  Within each article are lists of options you can consider and adopt as part of your thinking, promising the result of happiness. We all want happiness, individually, as well as contentment for the important people in our lives. For the … [Read more...]

This time, it will be different

‘Effort and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.’ John F. Kennedy The numerous holidays that close one year and launch another often become the catalyst for serious reflection on our current status and the future ahead. While this may be the time we search our souls for wisdom regarding the future, I believe that anytime during the year is a good time. I heartily encourage doing this at least once a year. Recently I had the opportunity to answer the following question: How … [Read more...]

Intelligence Quotient

“There are no great limits to growth because there are no limits of human intelligence, imagination, and wonder.” Ronald W. Reagan What is your IQ? If you do not know the actual score, you probably have some general idea. What does this number mean to you? It’s a measure of general intelligence, right? People with higher IQs are purportedly smarter than people with lower levels. Do you agree with this conclusion? If you are in the category of those measuring higher, the answer is definitely … [Read more...]

Letting Go

“. . . Forgiveness is letting go of the past. . . .”Gerald Jampolsky, M.D. One of my personal challenges is the inability to completely let go of past mistakes. I would like to say that it comes from a ‘perfectionist attitude’ toward some key areas in which my expectation is that of greatness. It is almost a comical contradiction in terms to associate me with perfection per se. Just ask my wife! She could easily point out areas that need major improvement. I do, though, embrace the … [Read more...]

Fourth Quarter

“It’s always too early to quit.” Norman Vincent Peale If you have ever watched a college football game, you know the sign that football players make as soon as the clock ticks off the final seconds of the third quarter. Players point four fingers in the air to emphasize that the fourth quarter is about to start. It predicts and commits them to the effort they will make in the final segment of the game. They intend to give it their all . . . to leave everything on the field. They want to … [Read more...]

The Big Little Card

“Simple is the ultimate sophistication.”  ~ Leonardo da Vinci My parents believe in 3 x 5 index cards. Growing up in a time when there are no personal computers or smartphones means that the capture of important information is likely to be in non-electronic form. The combination of pen and paper, notepad or file card becomes an essential tool for creating a record that can be recalled or used for organizing some aspect of their personal or business lives. My parents use all of the tools … [Read more...]

Angel Biscuits

“Our mistakes and regrets are not barriers to becoming who we can be; they are a necessary ingredient.”  David Schnarch, Ph.D. I do not drink buttermilk.  Just the thought of consuming this beverage is unpleasant.  The last time I took a sip of this thick liquid was so long ago that I can’t actually remember specifics. But, the experience permanently sealed in my brain that this was not a drink for me.  I only know one person who ever drank this stuff – my mom, who was probably the influence … [Read more...]

Go for the Gold

“You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.”  George Burns  Whenever my dad decided something, you could pretty much guarantee that he would not change his mind. He was stubborn, to put it mildly.  I remember an opportunity that arose when he was about 85 years old requiring him to modify his thinking – just a tad – to try something new that would make a huge difference in his life. He would have nothing to do with making a change.  One day when visiting him, … [Read more...]

Just One Person

“Life is one indivisible whole.”   Mahatma Gandhi It’s not the first time to get a splinter in my finger. I am working on a project at the street level of our multi-level condo at Orange Beach.  Being downstairs means a needle is not readily available. Since it is just a small inconvenience, I continue on with my work.  Not a good decision. Every time I grab a tool, I feel the irritation. Even when I feel no pain, I find myself thinking about this annoyance.   I make a conscious effort to not … [Read more...]

Routines Are Not Routine

“It’s not the will to win that matters – everyone has that. It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.”  Coach Paul “Bear” Bryant Have you ever noticed the routines that golf professionals go through as they get ready to make a shot?  There are a number of common steps that most pros will perform. Checking with the caddy for distance to the hole, paying attention to current wind speed, and identifying hazards, are some of these elements. While steps in these routines are common among the … [Read more...]