No Cost

‘I would have attained my college degree but I did not have the money because . . .’ ‘We had a chance to buy that stock before it doubled but . . .’ ‘I was going to be a . . . but then . . . happened and I . . .’  You have probably listened to the conversation of a family member or friend who looks back with some regret on how life has turned out. Bad breaks and disappointments are often part of the dialogue.  Perhaps, you have been the one sharing some of the personal outcomes of your … [Read more...]


“One thing about championship teams is that they’re resilient. No matter what is thrown at them, no matter how deep the hole, they find a way to bounce back and overcome adversity”. Nick Saban Zzzzzz . . . The distinctive sound of a singing drag, coupled with a severely bent rod, indicate a good-sized fish is on the end of Steve’s line.  He is my cousin-in-law, accompanying me on an inshore fishing trip along coastal Alabama in Orange Beach.  “That’s a nice fish!” I exclaim. Even though I … [Read more...]

Aunt Freida

“A joyful heart is good medicine . . .” Proverbs 17:22 We are standing in the back of a large room being used as the gathering place following Aunt Frieda’s funeral service. Dad and I had arrived just a few minutes late, and are now attending the reception. Being extremely busy, I was delayed in picking up my dad who lived 50 miles away. Compounding the late departure was the necessity of purchasing a new coat, and then driving another 200 miles to join our family.  Adding discomfort to … [Read more...]

Mind Over Matter

“There are no overachievers; we all have an almost infinite supply of potential.”   Source: Beyond Success, Brian D. Biro “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”  That over-the-top, seemingly unbelievable statement, often quoted by 21st Century writers and speakers, was made by best-selling author Napoleon Hill (1883-1970). How do you evaluate such a statement? Does it seem to be an exaggeration? Perhaps this is a step too far even for the ‘positive thinking … [Read more...]

The Breakfast

“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance. “ Brian Tracy In a phone conversation, he asks if I would be willing to share a few words at an upcoming breakfast. He is Marty O’Malley, Financial Life Leader and Director of L’Arche Mobile, a non-profit organization that is a favorite of Carol’s, my wife, and mine. Involved with this group a long time, we have contributed financially and with many volunteer hours. Our participation evolves over … [Read more...]

Letting Go

“. . . Forgiveness is letting go of the past. . . .”Gerald Jampolsky, M.D. One of my personal challenges is the inability to completely let go of past mistakes. I would like to say that it comes from a ‘perfectionist attitude’ toward some key areas in which my expectation is that of greatness. It is almost a comical contradiction in terms to associate me with perfection per se. Just ask my wife! She could easily point out areas that need major improvement. I do, though, embrace the … [Read more...]

Be Not Afraid

“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will."  W. Clement Stone She lived a little over a block away from our home. On Halloween night, her home was in our geographical target area for Trick-or-treating. As kids, we heard the rumors . . . and we made up even more to scare each other!  The house was always dark on Halloween night, so naturally, we picked up our pace when passing by.  Our efforts to scare each other worked. Why were we afraid? Because someone told us to be afraid.  It … [Read more...]

Ready to Laugh

“Never, ever underestimate the importance of having fun.”  Randolph F. “Randy” Pausch, Ph.D. I am on the phone talking with my sister, Brenda, about an upcoming presentation at a three-day retreat for cancer patients – those currently in treatment and those in remission – and many volunteers. The event, Camp Bluebird in Mobile, Alabama, is celebrating their 25th year. The reason for talking with my sister is to better understand my audience so that I can prepare a meaningful message. … [Read more...]

Camp Blue Bird

“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." Breast Cancer Survivors Unless you have been completely absent from our world, you know that October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  There are lots of fundraising events. TV, radio, newspapers and Internet connections all provide substantial visibility into the many organizations involved with cancer research and support for patients who are currently in treatment. This week, I will be speaking … [Read more...]

The Green Plastic Can

When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.” Joe Namath Occasionally, my mom called me the “G-Man.” ‘G’ stood for garbage. She called me by that name whenever it was time for me to take out the trash – one of a number of chores I had been assigned. In the beginning, I did not like any part of this job. But, it belonged to me, and the “G-Man” moniker became one of my infrequent nicknames. I did not mind the label. I hated the … [Read more...]